One of the most important thing we can do for our mental health is to have quality relationships in our lives. The key to developing quality relationships is to understand the different levels of emotional intimacy required within each of the four levels of boundaries in relationships.

We all have two psychological worlds we all live in, two emotional worlds, we need to become aware of and to understand how these two worlds operate. For most people, there is a significant gap between these two worlds. The bigger the gap, the more pain we will experience, the bigger the gap, the more isolation and loneliness we will feel. The smaller the gap between our two worlds the more emotionally fit we can become. The two worlds we all have are our inner worlds and our outer worlds.

What is the most powerful behavioural force in the human condition? Our identity. We will do anything we can consciously and unconsciously to remain consistent with our identity.

Most of us struggle with difficult emotions and moods because we were never taught much about our emotions, either how they work or how to work with them.⁣